***DISCLAIMER: I am not a mental health professional, and all of these things are principles and practices for you to mull over and think critically about how/if they’ll apply to your own life. None of this is to suggest that you can good-vibe your way out of a depressive episode, or that gratitude will cure your anxiety disorder. I do believe that the things I’m talking about can exist tangentially alongside medication, therapy or any other treatment, but I am not recommending them as any sort of replacement for medical care.***
The law of attraction is a spiritual principle that essentially returns our power to us in that the world around us mirrors our inner lives. The crux of it is simple: what we put into the world will return to us. It’s more than just karmic consequence of our moral decisions, it’s a daily, ongoing ebb and flow of our energy being reflected by the world around us. It sounds woo-woo (it is woo woo) but as soon as you start to recognize it at work in your own life, everything begins to shift. It’s something I’ve been practicing since I’ve been in my twenties, and I’m finally getting a grip on how to make manifestation & attraction a part of my day to day.
You know when you’re having a shit day and it keeps getting shittier? That’s the law of attraction at work. Even though we feel so justified in staying angry or frustrated or exhausted by whatever circumstances, remaining in that mental space digs us deeper into it. You know when you’re having win after win after win and feel absolutely unstoppable some weeks? Also the law of attraction at work. As soon as we understand this dynamic on a conscious level, we can start leveraging our own power to work some intense magic.
This post was inspired by mercury being retrograde this month, wherein the the internet loves to theatrically brace itself for a cosmic shitshow. I love astrology but this is a quarterly event that really showcases the law of attraction at work. When we carry a tension with us, eagerly expecting chaos, the chaos will come. If we protect our energy, pay little mind to things out of our control, we ward it off.
The very first time I knew what mercury retrograde was, I was about to turn 20 and a coworker was teaching me the ropes of manifestation, energy work and astrology. She explained that mercury was stationing retrograde and that shit tends to go haywire as a result. It sounded scary and exciting and I was ready for a front row seat to see the cosmos wreak havoc. I had lived through dozens and dozens of this astrological upset, but because I wasn’t focusing on it, it never had any noticeable hold on my life. In May of 2015, I was on guard, tense with anxiety waiting for the impending chaos. And the chaos came with a fucking vengeance. In the course of a week, I had broken up with my boyfriend, broken my phone beyond repair, been rear ended so badly my car was totaled, and was dealing daily with a smattering of other hallmarks of retrograde: fractured communication and uncooperative technology. Looking back I can see that my focus was so intently looking to prove that retrograde was real, and when things started falling apart, I allowed that negative energy to stay a while, thus attracting more chaos. Since then, I’ve slowly learned to shift that focus 180 degrees and to let more good things flow.
In late 2017, I had just moved to Oregon, was working a soul sucking retail job and not making enough to keep my bills current, much less allow me to financially recover from moving across the country. I made the decision to put my two weeks in without a concrete next step. I submitted my resume to dozens of restaurants and with a week left at my job, not a dollar in savings and no callbacks, it was an undertaking to not lose my shit, rescind my two weeks and stay broke and miserable for my own sanity. Instead of freaking out, I wrote a very specific list of what I wanted from my next job and carried it around in my wallet and read it to myself multiple times a day.
I walked out of my last shift with no plan. As I was getting to my car, the phone rang and I was offered a job that met every criterion on the list and ended up introducing me to some of the closest friends I made in Portland.
More recently, I moved into what is truly my dream space. One morning, after being denied for a tiny, dull apartment I had to make the conscious decision to not freak out even though it felt like I had exhausted all of my options and my current lease would be ending without anywhere for me to go. I had a gut feeling to call a property manager who had showed my ex and I some properties before our relationship ended. Before I could even finish describing what I was looking for, he told me “It’s your lucky day.” An apartment in my favorite building had just become available and wasn’t yet listed. He showed it to me 20 minutes later, and it checked every one of my boxes in terms of size, location, price, aesthetic and amenities. I was approved three days later and was able to comfortably pay my deposit, two months rent, and buy myself the furniture I needed to make it livable despite having spent the year prior struggling to keep food on the table.
What’s the most beautiful and intimidating thing about realizing our power is realizing it’s magnitude. We have to acknowledge that everything in our adult life is a product of our own doing. There have been times (very recently) where I had to look at why I was continuing to attract relationships with insecure, chaotic people. It was a hit to my confident-girl ego to realize that I myself was insecure and chaotic. The periods where I was nurturing deep seated anger were the periods where my closest friendships were on the rocks, I was unhappy in my body and I could not keep over $20 in my account.
HOW TO START LEVERAGING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
Step 1 is awareness. It all starts with the switch from the victim mentality which says that everything is happening to you. Once you reframe your worldview you can move into the power of knowing that everything is happening because of you and therefore everything can happen for you.
Step 2 is becoming responsible for your energy and learning how to elevate it. In an effort to not overload this post, I’ll be doing a mini blog series on how to actually start practicing and leveraging this magic in your own life, but the simplest way to start is with a gratitude practice. Some people write lists of what they’re grateful for every day. For those of us who aren’t the best with daily routines, foster an awareness of any low-vibrational energy (anger, frustration, anxiety) and find ways to reframe it as gratitude. When I’m stuck in senseless traffic, I talk myself out of what used to be an unnecessary rage by finding gratitude and peace in that I’m exactly where I need to be at that moment. For the rest of the day I’ll look for beautiful things that I would have missed had I arrived 2 minutes earlier.
I’ll be writing more posts about how meditation, daily routines relationships, physical wellness, your home, and even the internet can work for (or against) your own energy. If there’s anything you want to see please let me know!